Swap “race” for “gender” and it quickly becomes apparent how ridiculous it is to cast aspersions of racism at people who don’t fuck people of a particular color.
I’ve heard this analogy a million times, and it’s always struck me as being faulty and simplistic. (This is no reflection on you, just the analogy. You seem like an intelligent guy.) It’s apples and oranges. Sexual orientation is not the same as “No Asians/Blacks/Whites/Whatever.” As I made very clear in my essay, people are free to fuck whomever they choose to fuck. But when the decision to fuck or not to fuck is based solely on race, when you preemptively banish an entire race or ethnicity from your dating pool, it’s no longer merely a preference but a prejudice. Does that make people who do so bad? Not necessarily. To be human is to be racist to a certain degree. I just wish people would own it instead of acting like “racist” and “racism” are these horrific things that can apply only to blatant and violent white supremacists, black separatists, and others who actively hate based on race and/or ethnicity.