A Born-Again Fool

Is hatefulness next to Godliness, too?

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How do you have a “civil” discussion with someone like this? (Photo: flickr/Elvert Barnes)

Today I checked out my Facebook News Feed — which is something I sometimes do once a day but usually no more than once a week — and the first thing I saw nearly burned my eyes out of their sockets.

It was a very long status update from a high-school friend who, as far as I’ve seen during my infrequent News Feed checks, rarely posts anything.

It read…

WARNING….those of you that hate Christians, hate conservative minded people, get easily offended, hate and mock President Donald J. Trump, think that there is nothing wrong with gay marriage, think that it is okay to allow a child to choose which gender they identify with, disrespect military and have no respect for police officers, have a victim and slavery mentality, support open boarders [sic], support a democratic socialist lifestyle (and so forth)…you may want to unfriend me now because it is about to get worse! I hate what God hates and love what God loves. For some of you the lines seem to be blurred these days but it is not for me! I am giving you a heads up because I really do not care who I offend because I do not have time to coddle any of you! Time is short and I love you but I will speak the truth whether you like it or not. So please go ahead and unfriend me or else you might be exposed to the truth and get set free! If you want to have a civil discussion then by all means let us civilly discuss but I will no longer stand for any democratic socialist that tells me to go kill myself because I do not believe as they believe! I live in America and I will stand on my First Amendment Rights. I #WalkedAway years ago. I love you, thank you and have a wonderfully blessed day…#gettruth4yourself

As I read, I was waiting for “Gotcha.” Surely she was making fun of Trumpian trolls by talking just like one.

Sadly, she was dead serious. Instead of getting mad, I got disappointed. Had she not learned anything in high school English, like how to separate her thoughts into paragraphs, when to use “who” and when to use “whom,” and capitalization and comma rules?

Had this person whom I quite liked in high school really turned into the kind of person who says things like “Have a wonderfully blessed day”?

I learned a long time ago to always side-eye folks who use the word “blessed” like an arrow. Or people who like their own Facebook posts. Come on, girl. Are you that desperate?

I always get a chuckle from people who request a civil discussion after pretty much annihilating everyone they claim to be courting for mature dialogue. It’s the problem I have with cartoon Christian conservatives. They claim to be living for love, but everything on their agenda is anti when it comes to people and pro when it comes to concepts, like closed boarders [sic], the First Amendment, and… um, God.

Their mantra seems to be: “What’s mine is mine. You’re on your own.” Is that the Christian charity I’ve heard so much about?

As for the First Amendment that they’re always touting, it apparently doesn’t apply to critics of police brutality or a grown ass man who would rather kneel than stand during the national anthem. It only applies to them.

I wonder if this woman would be open to having a civil discussion with a man who grabbed her by the pussy because she is beautiful and he’s a celebrity, or one who judged her because she may or may not have been a teen mom.

I wonder if this black woman would be so eager to share a friendly back and forth with a white supremacist, one of those “very fine people” (in the word of Donald J. Trump) who rues the day the Union won the Civil War.

Is this really how she thinks one should begin a civil conversation — with judgment and recrimination? Her “truth” isn’t even her own. It’s something she thinks she read in a book.

Lord help anyone who happens to be different from her. Well, actually, maybe He couldn’t be bothered. Apparently, her God has a type and that type has to think and love just like Him, worship like people who worship Him, and be from the same country as those people who worship Him, or off to His hate list they go. Yep, apparently her God can’t be love because He hates big.

I’m over unfriending people whose political beliefs don’t line up with mine. But since she asked so nicely…

In the comment section of her post, I wrote: You sound like a hateful misguided woman. Your wish is my command. Unfriend.

And poof. Just like that, she disappeared from my News Feed. Forever.

She was “feeling determined.” I am feeling cleansed.

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Brother Son Husband Friend Loner Minimalist World Traveler. Author of “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?” and “Storms in Africa” https://rb.gy/3mthoj

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