He Promised to First Do No Harm. Then He Did

But please don’t call me a victim of sexual abuse. I’m a survivor of it.

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I was scared. I was terrified of how people would react. I thought they wouldn’t believe me. Or they’d think I was asking for it. Or maybe they’d say I am a gay man, horny and sex-obsessed. I must have enjoyed it.

Vulnerable and terrified

I didn’t think this sounded quite right, but he was the doctor, so I followed his instructions. As he pressed my groin and rubbed my testicles, he asked a string of personal questions.

Shame on him. Shame on me?

He was a highly respected medical professional. I was a gay kid just out of college who’d danced the previous Friday night away at Limelight. Who would believe me?

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