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Drop the judgmental assholery. Not everyone who goes with their best friend to a gay nightclub is “trolling for a homosexual encounter.” And even if he is, that does not excuse a person for using the N-word in response to rejection. Minnie Driver once told a story about how she was in a nightclub with a friend, and some random drunk guy who wouldn’t take no for an answer slugged her for rejecting him. Would you trivialize that experience by saying she was “trolling for a heterosexual encounter” so being punched by a guy was par for course?

Well, color me appalled.

Brother Son Husband Friend Loner Minimalist World Traveler. Author of “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?” and “Storms in Africa”

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